arm Consistent Discipline
"Discipline" means "teaching what is right." "Discipline" does not mean "punishment."
Discipline Styles
 
Warm Consistent (Children are given clear rules. The rules are consistently enforced by talking and sometimes using non violent discipline like the "time out.") Cold Consistent (Children are given clear rules that are consistently enforced by hitting or beatings. Parents don't talk; they hit.) 
Warm Inconsistent (Children are not given clear rules. Rules are not consistently enforced, but children are not hit to enforce rules.) Cold Inconsistent (Children are not given clear rules. Rules are not consistently enforced, but  spanking and beatings are used to enforce rules.)
 There are long term consequences for each of these discipline styles.

Warm Consistent Discipline. Children who are raised with warm consistent discipline tend to become secure adults who feel comfortable with themselves and with the rest of the world.

Warm Inconsistent Discipline. Children raised with inconsistent rules but without spanking, tend to be more creative, but they are more insecure as adults.

Cold Consistent Discipline. These children grow up following the rules of society, but they tend to be depressed as adults.

Cold Inconsistent Discipline. These children do the worst. They are unhappy adults, who have trouble with society's rules. They have the most trouble with the law.

    As parents you can choose your discipline style. Most professionals' recommendation is to talk to your child. Make sensible rules. Explain the reason for the rules. Give your child "until I count to three" to follow the rules and then use the "time out" if the child still does not listen. Parents and grandparents should use the same rules and the same discipline style.

    The "time out" should be one minute for each year of age in a safe place--they play pen, the crib, the couch, a corner of the rug. The child is to use this time to calm down so that she can listen to the rules.

    Try not to use the time out too much. Say "in one minute we are going to take a nap." Then, "now it's time to take a nap."

    Also praise the child's good behavior. "I like it when you play nicely with your brother." "I am proud of you for sitting at the table and eating without spilling." "I like it when you talk normally and don't yell."


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