arents need good support systems
 
hildren will feel most secure and connected to their parents if their parents are happy to see them and happy to be with them. CONSTANT TIME WITH AN INFANT CAN CREATE "HOUSE CRAZINESS." Mothers who never get out of the house with a new infant can get ‘house craziness’ or ‘cabin fever.’ The term cabin fever came from a time when mountain men would get snowed into their tiny cabins for days at a time. After days of no contact with the outdoors or with other humans they would begin to hallucinate and go wild.

     New mothers who are constantly with a baby can suddenly find themselves feeling "I never should have been a mother. I can’t do this. I’m a terrible person. This baby is ruining my life. I can’t breathe. I think I’m going crazy." One mother who vowed she never would leave her new infant and never left the house, began to hear the walls talk to her when the baby was 3 months old.  She was not crazy. It all went away when she began to get out away from the baby regularly.
 Fathers and mothers should know that most women do better if they get away from the baby about once a week. Some people need more—others less. Go out once a week or so to visit friends, go to church, go to the store, go out on a date with the baby’s father. IT IS BETTER TO MISS THE BABY, THAN TO RESENT THE BABY. If you feel frustrated with the baby, lonely, nervous and upset, ask your family and friends for help right away. You might be getting house crazy. Everyone needs help to be a good parent.
 Parents need friends who are also parents.  Close relationships with grandparents is wonderful, and parents can find other parent friends at parks, child classes, or religious institutions. Try not to be isolated and ‘on your own’ when raising a child.

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